The last part of the wedding that I want to discuss is the details. There are a lot of little things that need to be dealt with, and I just want to insure that you are aware of a few things. The easiest way to do this is to make a list, so here it goes:
1) What material do you want for the table cloths?
2) Do you want candles to line your path?
3) What color do you want the candles?
4) What kind of space are you going to have?
5) Do you want a seating chart?
6) Do you want a flower bearer?
7) What kind of flowers are you going to use?
8) What color are they going to be?
9) How do you want your hair?
10) How do you want everyone else’s hair?
11) Is everyone going to wear the same shoes?
12) What about jewelry?
13) What appetizers do you want?
14) What kind of cake do you want?
15) How many do you want?
16) How many people are you going to have?
17) Where are you having the wedding?
18) Do you want a slide show for the beginning of the wedding?
19) What songs so you want played?
20) THE LIST IS ENDLESS!!!
Or so it seems when you are in the middle of planning. I tried to put a few of the details that are uncommonly thought of in there. Remember there are many more things to worry about, and I just wanted to get you started. This is where I am ending my postings, but I wish you all the best of luck, and congratulations!
Thursday, December 11, 2008
The Dress
Ok, time for my favorite part of the wedding… the dress!!! There are many different styles of dresses to fit any bride, and the one belief that I hold firm on for the wedding dress is that you are in love with it! Now I’m not saying that you should take a trip to New York and have a famous designer make your dream dress, but I do think that you should be patient and find something that shows your personality. Personally, I am in love with a dress that has a red pattern on the bust and two inch thick red hems, and though I know that it is very untraditional to have color in your dress, I want it really, really badly! I guess it’s a good thing that there aren’t any wedding bells any where in the near future.
The bottom line is that you should do what you want and not worry about what others think on your wedding day. This is about you, and for once I want you to be a little vain and make sure you look gorgeous. Even though I usually attest this kind of behavior, I can let it slide this once…
The bottom line is that you should do what you want and not worry about what others think on your wedding day. This is about you, and for once I want you to be a little vain and make sure you look gorgeous. Even though I usually attest this kind of behavior, I can let it slide this once…
The Wedding Party
There is a tradition in my family about the wedding party: all of the cousins have to be in it… I know that it has been hard for my older cousins to incorporate (since there were thirteen of us), and now five more can be added to the list! Do you have any family quirks like that? I keep praying that the man I marry doesn’t have a large family that I have to incorporate as well, ugh! But, as we all know, that is unavoidable, so get to planning! I will warn you though; there are a few tricky situations you might find yourself in. One of them is two best friends. What is a girl to do?! My mom had this problem and eventually decided on one of them, but I think there should be another answer. Why can’t you have two bridesmaids? I know that someone has to hold the bouquet, but why not hold two smaller ones? Is it really worth it to hurt one of your best friend’s feelings? Another problem is having a best friend of the opposite sex… uh oh! I must say that being a female Best Man is probably easier to pull off than a male Maid of Honor, but both situations are incredibly sticky. What do they wear? At least it’s socially acceptable for a woman to wear pants and a tie, but what about a man in a dress? I know it sounds funny, but seriously these occurrences happen and they can change the course of a traditional wedding enormously! There are so many situations like these that all I can say is good luck, and I wish you the best!
The Reception
Alright, it’s time for one of the major questions: do I have any say in the reception? Well I believe that this question revolves around a few things. First, are you having a reception because this wouldn’t be kind of pointless if not? Second, are you having a traditional reception (the grooms family takes care of it)? Third, what do your future in-laws think about the whole situation? Communication is the key to this step in planning your wedding. If your future family wants to do the reception themselves, then you don’t have to worry about it, but if they want your opinion or help, give it to them! What better way to get close to his parents then helping them plan? If nothing else, you get some quality time with them.
What you wear to the reception is a toss up as well, in my opinion anyway. I think there are many different possibilities that are all unique and totally up to the bride. Do you wear your dress part of the time? All the time? At all? Once you figure that part out then the rest will come into play. If you change at any time for the reception, what color should you wear? At the weddings I have been to the brides all wore white or cream, but I think a little color is fun and adds a little personal flare. What clothing should you wear: a dress, skirt, pants, or something else? That, I believe, is completely up to you! Be unique!
What you wear to the reception is a toss up as well, in my opinion anyway. I think there are many different possibilities that are all unique and totally up to the bride. Do you wear your dress part of the time? All the time? At all? Once you figure that part out then the rest will come into play. If you change at any time for the reception, what color should you wear? At the weddings I have been to the brides all wore white or cream, but I think a little color is fun and adds a little personal flare. What clothing should you wear: a dress, skirt, pants, or something else? That, I believe, is completely up to you! Be unique!
The Theme
Though there are many different parts to a wedding, the theme is probably my favorite. It is something that can be 100% you. Whether you want to have a traditional wedding or something more creative, the possibilities are endless.
When most people think about a wedding they think white, red, pink, cream, and any other frilly feminine color imaginable. Why not try something new? If white is what you want, and your mind is set, then go for it, but I want to point out a few things that may interest some of you…
1) What is your personality? I know mine is anything but feminine, so why make my most memorable day something I’m not?
2) What matches your personality as a couple? Are you outgoing and wild, laid back and reserved, or somewhere in-between? Don’t forget that your fiancée is having a big day too!
3) What makes you happy? Enough said!
There are many different ways to make your wedding special, and spicing up your theme is just one of them, but I encourage you to think outside of the norm and personalize! Like they say, half of the fun is getting there! So have a blast and get creative!!!
When most people think about a wedding they think white, red, pink, cream, and any other frilly feminine color imaginable. Why not try something new? If white is what you want, and your mind is set, then go for it, but I want to point out a few things that may interest some of you…
1) What is your personality? I know mine is anything but feminine, so why make my most memorable day something I’m not?
2) What matches your personality as a couple? Are you outgoing and wild, laid back and reserved, or somewhere in-between? Don’t forget that your fiancée is having a big day too!
3) What makes you happy? Enough said!
There are many different ways to make your wedding special, and spicing up your theme is just one of them, but I encourage you to think outside of the norm and personalize! Like they say, half of the fun is getting there! So have a blast and get creative!!!
The Location
Where two people are married has been a struggle from the very beginning. It seems like there are certain places that we women are ‘required’ to be married in, and it leaves us feeling cornered. I have a close friend who is thinking about proposing to his girlfriend soon, but he has a major setback. He is Catholic and she is not. When he told me I said big deal… just book the church! Then he informed me that unless both partners are members of the Catholic Church, they can’t have the full service. My friend is postponing his proposal over the site of the wedding, and I find that heartbreaking!
I know another couple whose parents couldn’t decide where the couple should be married, and they never asked for the couple’s opinion. The two ended up eloping because they didn’t want to mess with the fighting anymore. Is any of this sounding familiar? I know there are hundreds of different scenarios like these, and if you are caught up in one my advice is to do what you want! Heck, have a theme wedding! Talk about memorable… And if tradition is what you want, then go for it and make it your own! Whose wedding is this? That’s right, it’s yours! Respect is a must in my book, so of course you have to do all of this politely, but the last thing you want is to be miserable planning what is supposed to be the happiest day of your life! Stand up for yourself, but please (and yes I am begging you!) do NOT become an out of control maniac; the opinion of others is just that, an opinion. You can definitely gently throw their idea out the window… or just nod and do it your way! Remember, it is your wedding!
I know another couple whose parents couldn’t decide where the couple should be married, and they never asked for the couple’s opinion. The two ended up eloping because they didn’t want to mess with the fighting anymore. Is any of this sounding familiar? I know there are hundreds of different scenarios like these, and if you are caught up in one my advice is to do what you want! Heck, have a theme wedding! Talk about memorable… And if tradition is what you want, then go for it and make it your own! Whose wedding is this? That’s right, it’s yours! Respect is a must in my book, so of course you have to do all of this politely, but the last thing you want is to be miserable planning what is supposed to be the happiest day of your life! Stand up for yourself, but please (and yes I am begging you!) do NOT become an out of control maniac; the opinion of others is just that, an opinion. You can definitely gently throw their idea out the window… or just nod and do it your way! Remember, it is your wedding!
The Date
Ok ladies, he just proposed in the most romantic way, and of course you said yes! What kind of girl wouldn’t? Now for the hard part… the planning! The first thing you should decide upon is the date. I know that you can’t set an exact date until you get closer to the month you want (for those of you who are wondering why, there are weather issues you have to watch out for during every time of the year), but the season and even the month can greatly help you plan the rest of your wedding. You want to get married in the winter? Consider sleeves (fashionable of course)! Want a summer wedding? Your bridesmaids’ dresses should probably be short. The list is endless! What I strongly believe in, however, is picking a date that is meaningful to the two of you. When was your first date? You might want to think about setting it in relation to that day. I personally am not a fan of the exact day… but what about exactly six months after? Three? It is all up to you, but I think that the more memorable the day, the more special and personal it will be for the two of you. My boyfriend and I have birthdays thirteen days apart, and if we end up together I would love to have my wedding in-between our birthdays. Maybe you have something quirky like that, or even an inside joke. Either way I strongly suggest that you make this about the two of you! Have fun with it and then move on to the other details!
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