The Location

Where two people are married has been a struggle from the very beginning. It seems like there are certain places that we women are ‘required’ to be married in, and it leaves us feeling cornered. I have a close friend who is thinking about proposing to his girlfriend soon, but he has a major setback. He is Catholic and she is not. When he told me I said big deal… just book the church! Then he informed me that unless both partners are members of the Catholic Church, they can’t have the full service. My friend is postponing his proposal over the site of the wedding, and I find that heartbreaking!

I know another couple whose parents couldn’t decide where the couple should be married, and they never asked for the couple’s opinion. The two ended up eloping because they didn’t want to mess with the fighting anymore. Is any of this sounding familiar? I know there are hundreds of different scenarios like these, and if you are caught up in one my advice is to do what you want! Heck, have a theme wedding! Talk about memorable… And if tradition is what you want, then go for it and make it your own! Whose wedding is this? That’s right, it’s yours! Respect is a must in my book, so of course you have to do all of this politely, but the last thing you want is to be miserable planning what is supposed to be the happiest day of your life! Stand up for yourself, but please (and yes I am begging you!) do NOT become an out of control maniac; the opinion of others is just that, an opinion. You can definitely gently throw their idea out the window… or just nod and do it your way! Remember, it is your wedding!